Valentine’s Day is not Just For Lovers

Happy Valentine’s Day!  I hope you have the best day ever!

My fondest Valentine memory was one that I spent alone.  I could not begin to tell you what Joe Blow gave me this year or that.  I spent part of last night trying my best to remember.  The only one that I could recall was one I spent alone and I pampered myself.  It was wonderful!  Therefore, I am going to do something different this year.  Today, I am going to make sure my grandmother does not have one thing in her house that she needs doing.  She is Queen for the day.  I want her to feel special.  She is special.

I think today would be the perfect day if everyone did the unexpected.  Today is not just for lovers but for everyone special in our lives.  So, I am going to share the love.  Here are some of my idea’s:

  1. Call an old friend that is special to you and tell them Happy Valentine’s Day.  If it is possible, take them a card.
  2. If you know someone is spending the day alone or they do not have a significant other, send them flowers or a card.  Send both and do not sign the card.  Make them smile.
  3. Take your nieces, nephews, or cousins out for ice cream.  If you know a child who has had a tough time this year, take them.
  4. Surprise an elderly family member with a gift.  Especially if they are in a nursing home.  Would you not just love to see their face light up when balloons were delivered?  Deliver the gift in person.
  5. You may know someone who has lost a close family member or child, be sure to send them a some candy and a card today.

The possibilities are endless.  The best way to make sure a person does not feel alone on this day is to let them know they are special.  Make them smile.  Include your children in sharing their love with someone.  Have them give their siblings a card.  Let them be a part of making a difference in someone else’s life so they can learn how wonderful it is to give.

Make someone smile today and create a memory that will warm their hearts forever!

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Self Pep Talks of a Single Mom

Funny how it wasn’t until I had kids of my own that I began to understand my parents.  I used to think they were the most crazy, insane, inhuman people who I had ever known.  In a way, I suppose they were because when it comes to your kids you will be what ever or who ever you have to be to protect them.  I know this now.  Looking back, I understand the decisions my parents made with me– the ones that I just did not, could not, and would not fathom back then.  I see their actions with a whole new vision and I think to myself, “Wow!  Now that is love.”  Some of the choices they made ha d to be the hardest things a parent could ever have to do.  Yet, they did it.  No matter how bad it hurt them or much they did not want to.  They did it for me.  That is unconditional love.  That is what my own kids will look back upon when they have kids of their own.  They, too, will reflect back and say, “She love me more than I ever realized.”  Yes, one day they will look back the same as I did.  That is, if I do not end up killing them myself first.  You pay for your raising do not ever think that you don’t or won’t.  You do.  You will.  But, you know what?  This is how we develop character.  Life has its funny little ways of working things out.  Kids are a blessing.  Mine is well worth every minute and every second of every day.  There is no doubt in my mind of that!  I think I will pour a glass of wine and toast to every future gray hair they create for me.

Random Thoughts on Life

Life can be so crazy sometimes.  You never know where it may lead or what is going to happen next.  Yet, we take the good, the bad, and the ugly and keep on keeping on.  At times,  it is insanity.  Hell, sometimes I am insane.  I remember when I was 18 years old.  I was sweet, nice, and polite,  I did not drink, curse, smoke, and had never taken any drugs.  What happened?  Life happened.  I never dreamed the firs person to call me a fucking whore would end up being my husband!  What did I do?  I sat down and cried.  I was so hurt not to mention stunned.  I had to get tough.  Sometimes, we all have to.  You let that punk bastard call me that same name today and see what I do for him.  He knows better.  Our marriage ended up in divorce–thank God.  That was in 1998 and I always said that I would never get married again.  I went ape wild for a while but now that I am older and I think of the future.  I get scared.  I get scared at the thought of being alone.  When my kids grow up and leave home to star lives of their own.  I will be alone.  I do not wan to be.  But, I am not going to settle for less than I deserve.  Because somewhere lost inside my soul is that same 18-year-old girl.  I am still the same person but a lot wiser and a lot less naive.  I want to love and be loved and I only want the best a person has to offer.  I am sick of all those bottom feeders.  I want it all and after some of the craziness life has thrown my way –I deserve it damn it.  I do.  Everyone does.  Life is what we make it.  We have all been told at one time or another not to sit back and let life happen.  You have to make it happen.  That is so true.  You only live this life once.  So make life happen and live out loud.  No one is promised tomorrow and you can never be sure what will happen next.  So live your life to the fullest.  Trust me.  I learned all of this the hard way but it is never to late.  Love your life and live it!

Well That’s Just Freaking Great….!!

A single mother with 3 beautiful children, 41 years old, back in college AGAIN with only 2 years to complete, I have climbed mountains and ran over one ex to get where I am today.  Yet, surfing the net tonight, contemplating even more issues in my somewhat crazy life.  I discover that the world is going to end December 31, 2012 and unless your rich and can afford VIVOS- underground luxury shelters to sit out the apparent Apocalypse that none of my issues really even matter because we are all going to die anyway!  Well that’s just freaking great!!  Apparently, somewhere I have missed some important information here because when did all this come about?  Who decided that the world will be ending in 2012?  That’s when I will finally be finishing what I should have completed years ago.  Isn’t that ironic as Alanis Morrisette sings?  That just put a whole new spin on all my mind drama!  Can someone please feel me in?