Recently employed as a Supervisor at a group home for mentally challenged adults and teenagers, I loved my job! However, there never seemed to be enough hours in the day to balance work with family. I am a single parent with three children. Three children plus twenty-eight more if you counted my family at the group home whom I love dearly. Let’s not forget that along with three other Supervisors our thirty something employees were at times like children themselves. After three years, I had to make a choice between my real family who I felt as if I were neglecting and the clients at the group homes. I am going to share with you some tips on balancing the two. I hope that if you are someone who is feeling as overwhelmed as I that this post will help you.
- Share the load. Unfortunately, I did not have this choice but a lot of people do so use it to your benefit. It should not be one person’s job to work, take care of the kids or older family members, and household chores. Get your partner or other family members to help. I had a bad habit of thinking I was the only person capable of doing something. fortunately, I found that was just not the case.
- Slow down and do not sweat the small stuff. You don’t have to wash the dishes every single day. So what if the house doesn’t get vacuumed weekly. Sometimes its simpler said than done but learn to let them go and don’t feel bummed for doing it.
- Set priorities. Take charge and make that list of things that you need to get done. Prioritize them. I think sometimes it was easier for me to feel overwhelmed and not to just take charge.
- Slow down. I have learned the hard way that life is just way to short. Don’t let it pass you by. Take time to stop and enjoy the people who love you. Remember to take time for yourself. Find ways to distance yourself from the things that causes you the most stress.
- Find a new career. Some careers take up more of your time than others. Some are more stressful than others. If you find yourself needing more time for you and your family explore other career options. You may find that some careers are more flexible.
- Change jobs. If a career change is not an option, you could look for a new job. You may even be able to negotiate with your employer a new position. It could involve a job search, or it may involve temping or working part-time. You may even try becoming a consultant or free-lancing. Explore your options.
- Don’t procrastinate! Alot of feeling as if your overwhelmed is due to disorganization and procrastination. Make that list as discussed above. Be sure to set realistic goals and don’t put off doing what is on your list.
- Find a way to simplify your life. I think as human beings we try to take on too many responsibilities. We try to do too much. We try to own too much. Learn to say no. Change your lifestyle. Get rid of clutter and baggage in your house and in your life!
Life is a process just like striving for balance in your life. Figure out what works for you. Celebrate your successes and don’t dwell on your failures!